I always look around myself
And see the people who surround me
They are:
Awesome
Benevolent
Caring
Diligent
Energetic
Faithful & Fun
God-fearing & Gorgeous
Humble
Interesting
Jovial
Kind
Loving
Memorable
Nice
Open
Quick-thinker
Responsible
Serious
Team-player
Un-’matchable’
Very optimistic
Willing
X-tra ordinary
Young in mind, heart and soul
Zealous
And you are one of them.
Thank you my friend.
The ultimate point in our lives is to gain happiness, joy and love. All these are meant to make our lives complete, with the realization that all will be fine. But then, there is a moment one feels it would be better for the world to come to an end. This is more so, when the heart has been broken. A booming relationship suddenly coming to an end marks a period of permanent sadness, trigger unsettling pain. Loss of love can be equated to death since it leads to an end of a warmth, companionship, intimacy and confidence, which in some cases; it can take long before one is able to regain the erstwhile life. Once the heart is broken, the taste of life becomes one bitter journey, coupled with self-denial and self-rejection.
When a heart is broken, there are a number of things that run in the mind of the victim. With the loss of security [in the case of woman], company [both man and woman] and someone to share dreams and aspirations with [both man and woman], the life of a person is marred by hopelessness.
Shattered dreams can be restored, but a broken heart, takes time to heal. It’s easier to mend the dreams by following them with a lot of hope and resilience, than trying to stitch the broken heart. This is because a broken heart feels that it has lost a part of itself, yet it must survive in one way or the other.
So when the world turns dark, all because of heartbreak, a bemused lover need not wallow in the past. Wallowing in pain, can disintegrate the mind, and break the heart further[contemplating or] leading to suicide. The most important thing is building a strong avenue for overcoming this painful journey, and this can be done by:
Accepting that the heart is already heartbroken. The breaking of the smallest yet significant part of a human being; there are two things which are rampant – the situation can be reversed or not. If the latter, forcing things to work out will not be the best option.
Seeking help or becoming busy with something that will erase any mark of the past can come in handy.
Fighting the feelings with false hopes, will make the situation worse. Facing the situation as it is, will give better strategies for overcoming the pain and build a strong heart.
Speaking out with trusted friends and close family members will make the landing impact softer. Joining a support group can help one improve on their esteem since most of the people in the group must have undergone through the journey. The feeling of isolation is overcome.
The aggrieved should take a rest from normal schedules because when the heart has been ‘tampered’ with emotionally and psychologically, all the energies are worn out leading to less carrying out of tasks.
After undergoing through these steps, then the next part is moving on. It should not just occur automatically; rather it must be a process… a process that is both involving and tiresome. This is so because if one was in a relationship for five, ten or even three years, then the partner calls it over, sadness, confusion and bitterness will creep in because there was mutual sharing of emotional joys and pain. And getting out of a relationship even when it is imminent is harder than getting into one.
It would be destructive for one to remain stuck in depression for long. After any heartbreaking, there is always a room for improvement, and the future is on the offing. The end of a beautiful relationship should not be considered as the end of rekindling a lost love or of even falling in love once again.
